The first thing that really hurts is a Divorce. I had 2 kids as my daughter was 4 years old my son just over 1. I never saw them again. Ex's get into a messy divorce despite what they say at the beginning. Anger and resentment usually takes over and kids become a weapon. Never allow this to happen. Children need love and understanding by this time as they usually feel responsible. Get boxing gloves NOT your children to fight with. How can you answer to God if you do this?